女性に好印象を与える1通目のメッセージとは??

メッセージ

そう、タッキーだ 

今日もよろしくな!!

 

今日は「女性に好印象を与える1通目のメッセージとは??」というテーマで記事を書いていこうと思う。

 

第一印象が重要なのはペアーズ内でも同じ

ペアーズに限ったことでなく、「第一印象」がいかに大事か?ということは、よく聞く話しだろう。

ペアーズの中では、お互いにいいね!をしあい、マッチングすることではじめて、女性とコミュニケーションをとり始める。それが初めてのメッセージだ。

あなたがこれからペアーズを初めて、メッセージでコケてしまわないように、この記事をしっかりと読むように。

 

女性が好印象を抱くメッセージとは?

これはペアーズの公式から拝借してきたデータだ。つまり、ペアーズが会員に向けてとったアンケート結果である。

1番好印象を与えたメッセージの内容は「自分にいいね!した理由が書いてある」らしい。

「ちゃんと私を見てくれたんだな♪」
「てきとうにいいね!したわけじゃないんだ♪」
「プロフィールをちゃんと読んでくれたんだ♪」

というのが、大きな理由らしい。

 

「へ~、そうですか」というのが、タッキーの素直な感想だ。

なぜなら、プロフをしっかり見て「この人はいいな!」と思った女性にいいね!したところで、その女性はタッキーにいいね!をくれないからだ。

「顔がよければとりあえずいいね!しとこう」というのが現実である。

 

なので、実際にプロフィールを見てない女性とマッチングしてしまった場合は、メッセージに「ちゃんとプロフ見たよアピール」をするために、プロフィールを見直すことをオススメする。

 

理想:プロフ見る→この女性いいな!→マッチング→メッセージ

現実:とりあえずいいね!しまくろう→マッチングした!→プロフ見てみよう→メッセージ(趣味が〇〇って素敵ですね!)

 

こんな感じだ。後付けでいいから、好印象を与えるために、プロフを確認してからメッセージは送ろう。

 

 

誠実さ・真面目さがウケる

あなたが童貞かチャラ男かはタッキーは知らないし興味がない。しかし、結論的には「誠実さや真面目さ」が女性ウケがいいのは確かだ。

童貞すぎて返信が遅れたり、長文しすぎてはいけない。逆にチャラ男すぎて、「ういーっす!」みたいな軽いメッセージもNGだ。

 

あくまでペアーズに登録している女性は、本気で恋人を探している。チャラ男のように、軽い気持ちで異性を探しにきているわけではないのだ。

なので、1通目のメッセージは誠実さや真面目さをアピールしつつも、長文になりすぎないようなメッセージが好ましい。

 

ついでなので、初回メッセージでNGなことをまとめておこう。

 

初回メッセージでやってはいけないこと

  • 返信が遅れる
  • 返信が早すぎる
  • 返信が重すぎる
  • 返信が軽すぎる

 

何ごともバランスが大切だ。童貞ぽくてもチャラ男ぽくてもいけない。誠実・真面目さをアピールすることが大切だ。

ただし、それはあくまでベースとなる考え方であり、実際には女性のキャラを見たうえで、臨機応変に対応していくことが好ましい。

 

インドアっぽい女の子なら落ち着いた感じの返信、アグレッシブな女性には少しテンション高めで、、、みたいな感じだ。

例文を書いておこうと思ったが、それは自分で考えてほしい。考えて行動することで反省が生まれ、成長に繋がるのだ。

 

では今日はここまで 

ほな!

 

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